Bringing peace into your home, love into your relationships and joy into your heart
3 minute read. Being present. You may here it often in this current wave of mindfulness. What does be present mean? Being present means that you are having your focus, attention, thoughts and feelings fixed on what is happening in the moment. In the present, …
I’ve spoken about having acceptance for your husband, admiration for your husband and appreciation for your husband; however, there are other principles that I would like to add to the list of daily deposits. This deposit is attention. Wives are wonderful at showing attention to …
If you know me, you know that I love to create festive traditions for my family VERY often.It’s the little celebrations and rituals that creates a safe space to love, grow, reflect and show gratitude. Creating celebrations and family rituals with my family helps us to strengthen the identity within the family.
There are rites-of-passage rituals, weekly rituals, monthly rituals, birthday rituals and even DAILY rituals! Okay, okay. I know your probably thinking that’s just a bit too much. The truth is, you create rituals too. Every day, you create rituals for yourself and your family without knowing it. I choose to create loving and lasting memories for the family by being intentional of actions. Tiny celebrations of self and family bring a since of uniqueness in dealing with loss, trauma, happy moments, events, and more.
This season of love and light is no different in my duty of organizing fun, celebrations for this month of a very special birthday, winter solstice, kwanzaa and the ending of the year.
The Favorite family winter solstice is what I would like to share with you all. Winter solstice falls on the day of December 21st and represents a day to observe for various traditions and customs. Because winter solstice falls on the birthday of a very important man in my life (my husband), our winter observation happens on the 25th of December! We have been doing this celebration for 6 years and this year, nothing has changed. There is an excerpt by Women’s Health that explains the stance of winter solstice perfectly:
“ The winter solstice has carried strong symbolism for many, many years. Some refer to solstice as the rebirth of the sun—and not coincidentally Christmas celebrates the birth of the Son. Solstice can be a magical, contemplative time—a night of spiritual re-connection and ritual.”
Winter solstice is our time to celebrate renewal, rebirth and gratitude.
How do you spend your season? What rituals do you create for your family to engage in? I would love to hear.
In future posts, I will share other rituals that our family does together. In the mean time, click here to find out how you can incorporate rituals for you and your family. You don't have to have a large family to incorporate rituals. You don't have to have a family at all. Rituals are a way to incorporate sense of self into your daily life. Try it!
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The Second A: Admiration It has been as of recent that I’ve heard that admiration is “the cry of a man’s soul.” A man is often drawn to the one that praises and admires him. This is an important secret that every wife should know. …
This post marks the beginning of a very needed series to The Fascinating Wife. Its a series I’m calling, A Fascinating Series. With A Fascinating Series, my mission is to touch, inspire, speak and share a perspective on marriage that is less ordinary for the …
I was always told that the secret to a happy, and lasting marriage was communication. This word, communication, was plastered in my mind as the answer for every marriage situation when I first got married. If something didn’t go my way in a marriage, I was always told to have a sit-down about it. It was expected to be a “serious conversation” where we can ‘communicate’ about my feelings.
This is not the key to a happy and joyous marriage. A few months in, I found out that the ‘communication’ aspect of marriage is nagging and annoying. Having to constantly communicate likes and dislikes are not desirable for a stable marriage. There are many keys to having a genuinely happy marriage and most of those keys unlock the doors to our feminine grace as women.
The first key that I go over in my classes is acceptance. The primary method of accepting your husband is to focus on his positive qualities. All humans are made up of strength and weaknesses. When you focus on the weaknesses of your husband, it becomes difficult to have affection towards him. Focusing on the weaknesses of your husband also makes it difficult for you to love him at your very best. Can you imagine what it would be like if our husband thought about our constant weaknesses? Too many women get into a marriage and feel cheated when their husband shows a negative tendency. Negative tendencies can be dishonesty, hygiene, or even moodiness.
Husbands easily overlook negativity just as long as you aren’t putting them through emotional turmoil and are giving regular sex. Wives look at negativity from their husbands and immediately change their whole perspective on who they married. Next thing you know, the woman is feeling cheated and tricked as if she married a man she didn’t know.
Choosing to set your mind on your husband’s strengths will help you view his positive attributes. You can not expect your husband to accept your negatives while not accepting his. Some women feel like they have a personal responsibility to change their husbands into someone better suited for them. Men do a lot of things that may not be to the standard of women; however, they are heroic, courageous nature should be looked at instead of ignored. The natural ability for a man to provide and protect is also other natures that is ignored by their wives.
Your husband’s inadequate ability for emotional intimacy should not be a laser focus of his worth.
The best environment for a husband to grow is not an environment full of whining and critical expectations. The best environment for a husband to grow is one that speaks a language he can hear, feel and understand.
Sincerely,
Charlene Favorite
The Fascinating Wife
Being a wife is such a beautiful feeling. The feeling of being protected and taken care of is an old familiar feeling, left by my father, that I will always cherish. The union of marriage is a sacred union. Some of the millennial teachings tell …