Bringing peace into your home, love into your relationships and joy into your heart
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The rhythms of our daily life has benefited our family structure in such a positive way. Through our daily rhythms, life
gives more freedom to everyone in the home. With a rhythm, my children are more relaxed and comfortable, and more secure because they know that the adult they love and trust is guiding the flow of the day. They relax into this security knowing their needs are met and its so phenomenal.
In this daily rhythm, I've included story time in the morning to help center us into our mission as a family unit. I could have filled story time up with any fairy tale story of my choosing but I decided to spend that morning story time focused on the living values created for my children.
There are twelve values that I've centered around this home program to promote self-esteem, critical thinking, emotional intelligence, and creative expression. I find these to be skills that will enable children to respond positively to the ever-changing world we live in.
The 12 values are:
Since we are on the first value, I'll explain the first value of peace in detail. The reflection points about peace are:
Peace is being quiet inside.
Peace is having a good feeling inside.
Peace is when people get along and don't argue or hit
Peace is feeling relaxed and safe
Peace is having positive thoughts about self and others
Peace begins with all of us.
There are four main goals to go along with this peaceful unit. Each goal has its own objectives to teach and display peace for my three littles of different ages ( 4-7). The peaceful unit contains 22 lessons. I've organized our schedule to cover 1 lesson per story time.
Goal #1: To increase the experience of peace.
Goal #2: To increase knowledge about peace
Goal #3: To build emotional literacy skills regarding their feelings
Goal #4: To build conflict resolution skills
If you have noticed by the objective under each goal, my children and I conduct role playing to learn. Story telling and role playing has been the best way to implement true understanding.
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Hello fascinating ones.
This month is November and there is ia holiday on its way. Well, sort of. When I began my own family, I knew there were certain holidays I wanted to reclaim for myself with traditions unique for me and my family.
November holiday time is one of them.
As a parent and wife, I'm all about creating memories and moments that will forever be shared in the hearts and hopefully continued for generations to come. If you follow me on Instagram ( @thefascinatingwife) you know I've nearly transformed every major holiday with the change of meaning, and sometimes the change of date.
Thanksgiving is November 26th 2020. Our Thanksgiving time is more of a celebration of light. We literally call the month of November, A Celebration of Light. Let me explain.
Celebration festivals connect us with the cycle of nature and the sense of community. My children thrive on consistency. Add a dash of celebration of life and they are swooned.
A phenomenal woman once said, " When we acknowledge the changing of the earth with festivals, we are honoring our children's place in the world."
In November, we celebrate that halfway point to the winter solstice with our lantern walk. This lantern walk shows us that as we enter a cooler season of the year, we must kindle lights within our own hearts. It goes perfectly with our winter solstice tradition of candle meditation and going inward. November jump starts a powerful season for manifestation, rebirth for the earth, sharing and giving to others.
For the lantern walk, the family makes their own lantern for an evening walk, a meditative celebration. We sing songs quietly and when the walk is done, we celebrate with some delicious dessert. We see it as spreading positive vibrations. Last year, this just happened in our backyard but this year, we will be going around the town again. Last year we ran into a opossum family and let's just say, we gave them the backyard lol … No really. They can have the whole backyard for all I care ( totally kidding).
For the sharing, we do other activities.
The weekend before the 26th, we organize a clothing drive to give clothing to the homeless shelters. We donate books to our local little libraries in the park and we donate toys as well.
The giving doesn't end there. Here are a few other traditions we have for this time.
The weekend before 'Thanksgiving,' we will be in Miami, continuing the donation drive just in time for our Monday return back home to drop everything off.
What do you do for your November holiday? I would love to hear how you celebrate with your family!
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Parenting with awareness does not happen overnight. Parenting with awareness is also not found in quick-fix parenting books, how-to guides on parenting topics or anything outside of the parent-child dynamic. Trust me, I have tried.
Parenting with awareness or consciousness happens in a moment by moment experience and can only be recognized within those moments. Without every living the moment, how can we be conscious about it?
The true way to parent consciously is to be observers of our own behaviors when we are with our children. In this way, we can begin to be aware of our emotional imprint, our triggers from childhood experiences, and who we really are underneath the structure of control. The parent-child dynamic must shift to a more productive and healthy way to foster a relationship. Gone are the days where our children are beneath us and seen as incapable beings that need guidance. We, the parent, are the ones that need all the guidance we can get. The guidance comes from our children.
Sometimes I find myself repeating the same unconscious behavior despite my best intentions. This can be so discouraging for me, but I have noticed a very important shift. When I begin to live within the present moment and catch my unconscious behaviors, I can then expand my mind into a realm of consciousness because now, I am aware of my trigger. Becoming aware of my unconsciousness gives me the opportunity to confront the reason for my reaction and work on calming my inner child before the irruption of the emotional imprint.
Change doesn’t happen overnight; however, the consistency of catching the unconscious behaviors will allow for the foundation important to parenting the whole being in our children AND within ourselves.
Our unconscious mind is not the enemy. Instead, it is the tool for our consciousness to arise.
There is no arrival point to our level of consciousness. It is a lifelong shift: A true paradigm that needs working on day after day, moment after moment.
“To become conscious is to witness our consciousness, which progressively makes it conscious.” – S.Tsabary
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